Having helped countless women to process and move on from unhealthy relationships that were only bringing them anxiety and depression, here is my list of 8 thoughts to keep in mind when ending a toxic relationship:
8. You have a lot to offer. If somebody takes you for granted and only brings you grief, then he’s not the one.
7. Remember that it takes two people. If he’s not willing to put in the work or he says he will, but never does, then you need to move on. Past behavior is good indication of future behavior.
6. Don’t think, but in the beginning, it was so perfect! In the beginning it’s always perfect. It’s almost as though music is playing in the background, right! The honeymoon phase is never a good indicator of what is to come. People normally always have their best faces on in the beginning. It usually takes some time to really get to see the different sides of a person. Be able to see the reality of where the relationship really is now and be able to see it for what it is.
5. You are your number one priority. The only person responsible for you is you. It’s important that you take care of yourself first by ensuring your happiness before that of anybody else.
4. You don’t need to be with somebody to be happy; True happiness comes from within. Having a partner should just be an added bonus.
3. Don’t think that you are never going to meet anybody. Look around. There is no shortage of people out there. You can’t imagine how many women I help to get past their exes. I’ll hear comments such as, “I don’t think I’m going to ever have true love,” only to later see them meet a much better match. Have an abundance mindset. You can totally get what you want and need.
2. I hypnotize people all the time and I always tell people that there is nothing more hypnotic than love. It takes time to get past a relationship even if it wasn’t working, just because there are still so many emotions involved. Be gentle, loving, patient and understanding with yourself as you go through this time period.
1. See this time period as a great opportunity to make yourself stronger and really boost your self esteem. Even from the worst experience, you can grow.
About Sasha Carrion:
Mind Coach and Certified Hypnotherapist, Sasha Carrion is often seen and heard as an expert on both English and Spanish speaking TV and radio shows. With her no nonsense approach and caring style, Sasha is focused on helping people take care of their lives by taking control of their minds. For more information visit: http://SashaCarrion.com
As women we often fall behind our fears when facing our lifetime career goals, and I am not just talking about that small social fear of snakes or airplanes, but other things that are more internal fears of and about ourselves and our capabilities. Simple fears of failure or looking like a fraud at work can cause us to hold back and remain overly quiet or solitary rather than take the necessary steps to move ahead, when we know deep down we deserve to attain our goals. Face your fears in the face, whether you are building your own business, writing a book or producing a movie!
Despite all your fears you must maintain faith in yourself in order to pursue and reach your dreams. The important thing to remember is that you can achieve whatever you dream if you look your fears head-on in the face and overcome them. It is the most important to live with courage and confidence, and move toward everything you are worthy of achieving.
Like Eleanor Roosevelt stated: “You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
And according to Ellen Kuras… as women our confidence must remain with us at all times!
“I think that women have to face their fears about being competent technicians, because most of the women I’ve met in the industry have consistently been great technicians… Be confident and people will see and believe in your confidence. More importantly, don’t be afraid to ask questions if you don’t know something.” – Ellen Kuras, Famous Cinematographer
Tips to face fear head-on:
Get comfortable with fear, it will be in yourself and others
Make your dominant thoughts positive, including all of the previous successes you have
Don’t give time, energy or attention to fear; the only plan you need to make is greatness
Live vicariously through the victories of others, make sure that success is all around you
Ask your family and friends for encouragement, and a support group is essential
When attempting to express your anger externally, there are some ways to help yourself make sure that everything remains in control. Definitely consider the person to whom you will be talking, and take a few steps to make sure everything will be more effective than dramatic:
Remember the level of your goal of expression
Strive for clear communication
Practice ahead of time if you are unsure of what to do or say
If you know that you need some additional assistance on possibly controlling your temper when you are angry, take a look at the site below for some more details.
Recently featured in the New York Times Sunday Styles section as the next generation guru, motivational speaker, life coach and author Gabrielle Bernstein is making her mark. Expanding the lexicon for the next generation, Gabrielle is a #1 bestselling author of the book “Add More ~ing to Your Life”. A hip guide to happiness published by QNY.
Gabrielle was just one year out of college, when she co-founded the Women’s Entrepreneurial Network, a non-profit professional organization that connects female entrepreneurs. WEN started a local mentor program for young women, WEN Mentors, and is best known for its signature Gift of Service Exchange events. That same year, Gabrielle incorporated her own boutique public relations company, SparkPlug Communications.
In 2003 Gabrielle was the president of the Young Professionals Council for NARAL Pro Choice New York. Her brainchild event Strut Your Choice became a YPCC yearly fundraiser.
Since 2004 Gabrielle, who has a degree in theater from Syracuse University, has been on the speaking circuit. Gabrielle has presented lectures at the Massachusetts Conference for Women, Learning Annex, Seattle Center for Women in Democracy, Nobel Women, Integral Yoga, Kripalu, Universities nationwide, The Step Up Women’s Network, The Junior Leagues and other venues. She also shared her message through her regular guest spot on bestselling author Karen Salmansohn’s Sirius Radio show “Be Happy Dammit.”
In 2007, she launched the brand Falling in Love with Your Future: A Young Woman’s Guide to Passion and Happiness, which takes the form of books, life coaching, lectures and more. An integral part of the program is the emphasis on guidance and mentors. Gabrielle recently launched her social networking site www.HerFuture.com for young women to find mentors.
>>From her position as CFO (Chief Five-Year Old) at her first lemonade stand, Jill Salzman has come a long way.
In high school, Jill created a music fanzine culling advertisers and distributing it throughout her hometown, just so she could land on the guest lists to her favorite concerts.
A graduate of Brown University and law school after that, she started Paperwork Media LLC, a music media firm. Her parents still wonder why she opted for the music business over the seductive and alluring career of a bankruptcy attorney.
She went on to co-create The Bumble Brand, LLC, which currently sells Bumble Bells, audible anklewear for the newest of human beings. Media response has been fantastic, sales are strong, and yes, her daughter still wears them.
Upon starting The Founding Moms (formerly The Momtrepreneur Exchange), the response from moms continues to be as overwhelming as ever. Jill organizes Founding Moms Exchanges in cities around the globe to bring momtrepreneurs together, live and in-person, to network, learn and exchange with one another. Shes constantly on the lookout for momtrepreneurs to open new Exchanges in new places. Recently profiled in A Cup of Cappucino for The Entrepreneurs Spirit Volume II, now available at Amazon.com, Jill also speaks to corporations, universities and other organizations about why everyone should be paying more attention to their mothers.
When shes not starting up a new venture, Jill enjoys baking, skiing, and erasing her daughters crayon artwork from the kitchen walls.